[tps_header]When you meet someone who gives you butterflies, sometimes your first instinct is to begin dating and jump right into a relationship. However, if you’re dating someone new and start to think things may lead to something more serious, it would be in your best interest to take a step back. You’ll need to ask yourself if this is someone you really want to spend more time with. Letting the wrong person into your life could negatively impact you for many years to come. Be proactive and make an effort to see if this is really what you want. In order to decide how to proceed, ask yourself these relationship questions.[/tps_header]
1. How does this person make me feel?
You should feel better after spending time with your date. If you find you feel worse after being with your new love, this is a sign your relationship isn’t healthy. A good relationship should bolster your self-esteem, not lower it.
Relationship expert Megan Raphael said a relationship won’t always be perfect or give you the tingles all the time, but you should have a general feeling of joy as a result of spending time with that special someone. “Healthy relationships, while occasionally causing the partners angst, overall bring joy, happiness, and contentment to the individuals. There may be issues, conflicts, disagreements and/or problems, but once these get worked out, the partners are left with and experience satisfaction,” Raphael writes in her eHarmony column.